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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Every rational person will agree with me. You can read your response yourself: now it's a problem when the "unhelpful" sibling stops by to see their mom unannounced?! You and the other sibling are simply some control freaks. Nobody needs to make an agreement with you to see their mom. If pharmacy pickup is a problem, do it through Amazon delivery. You literally make up problems. Your sibling is allowed to see their mom without your approval. [/quote]

+1 OP I mean this gently, but stop creating problems. You're making arbitrary and unnecessary demands then blaming your sibling when he doesn't do as you demand.

He IS doing "something, anything . . . " He's visiting your mom. There's no need to add the extra layers of going to the grocery store or pharmacy when you can easily eliminate these trips with delivery. You keep insisting that these trips must be done to check on your mom. We're trying to tell you that it's possible to check on your mom without adding unnecessary errands beforehand.

You're in full blown martyr mode and trying to cast yourself as the peacemaker when you're not. I say this as one of two sisters helping our mom while our two brothers interfere and cause chaos and drama. I would love it if they stayed out of it (while keeping their occasional visits and calls to our mom) and let us peacefully get the care that our mom needs.

Many of us are telling you from experience that if it's too much work for two of you to manage, then you need to outsource it. Look at what truly has to be done by family vs. what you can outsource. Grocery and pharmacy delivery are obvious options. Stop creating busy work or you'll burn out and further the family rifts.[/quote]

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