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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]G.d. This is a mean bunch of women. [/quote]

Not really. They are so good at it they have managed to fool people like OP.  They keep their true opinions to themselves, as they should. But if you ask anonymously, people will tell you what they really think.[/quote]

DP and yes really.  So many awful responses. So many awful people.  Good at what?  Being a fake jerk?

I do not understand why so many people feel the need in a conversation to say fake things.  If someone talks about their vacation, why not just say, that sounds wonderful.  Ask details about the trip that interest you.  Why on earth would you bring your children into it?  Why on earth would you ever fake envy?

DCUM proves that once again, on the inside, most people are unkind.[/quote]

You misunderstand. People are saying they fake envy in order to make the other person feel good. Feeling envied can be a nice feeling -- it's validating. If someone is boasting about their big vacation plans and I suspect that they need to feel validated for that, I might say "oooh, I'm so jealous! That sounds amazing, I wish I could do that!" Even if I'm totally happy in my life. I assume the reason they are going on and on about this vacation or bragging about it is that they feel insecure about it somehow and need some validation.

It is fake but it's not meant to be mean or unkind. I'm a believer in giving people what they ask for when it comes to emotional needs. Generally I find it helps people to feel more comfortable and then everyone gets along better.[/quote]

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