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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Some of you are doing incredible mental gymnastics to justify your behavior of commenting on others’ bodies. But I am encouraged that most people get that it’s just flat out rude![/quote]

My kid's preschool teacher saw me shortly postpartum and told me I looked great--something like that is rude?[/quote]

“You look great” is not automatically a comment about someone’s body. With a new mother it can also mean something like, good job getting out of the house, acknowledging it’s hard immediately postpartum. That said, one lesson everyone can learn is that moms don’t always feel great and commenting on their appearance is loaded and could go either way. Take that knowledge as far as you need to![/quote]
Some things I've said recently to non-acquaintances 
Wow a baby and a puppy at the same time? That must have solved your free time problem 
Your baby is giving me baby fever (I had three kids in tow) Mom was like "Really?!" 
Your baby is cute. Want to trade? *point to my toddler* 
Wow, that is a *fresh* baby (obvious newborn) 
I wont even ask if she is sleeping through the night

You "You look amaaaaaazing" women need to step it up. You're just lame!

I dont remember how it came up, but I hinted I had birth trauma (with random moms, not moms with new babies) and 2 different women opened up to me, one told me her uterus ruptured in a VBAC and her baby died, another woman told me her OB sent her home with the placenta in, she had a huge hemorrhage and had to call an ambulance and be re-admitted.

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