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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I feel bad for you but why no job and three kids?  Seems like you also made terrible choices. [/quote]

Are you always this heartless???

Soren’s I just can’t imagine what posters here are thinking when they are beyond cruel like this.[/quote]

It’s heartless but the truth. OP needs a job. It’s really that simple. She won’t get one for the same reasons she hasn’t been working.

Continuing to have kids with an alcoholic and not working but then asking for help when time is up? [/quote]

I mean OP said in her first post that she was getting a job, but you probably know better.  :roll: [/quote]

Teaching jobs for fall hire NOW. OP could also be subbing for income and a reference. She said she planned to get a job, she hasn't shared any concrete steps.

OP needs to be more active and less reactive. The dysfunction of living with an addict carries over. She knew he was sick enough not to live with but still did not seek immediate income and legal advice. Teaching > subbing, tutoring, etc.

OP needs to try to get him fully diagnosed and optimally, discharged to rehab from the hospital. The hospital may have AA meetings. She needs to shore up the situation to maximize her options.[/quote]

Which is why she is asking for advice, which you clearly have.  Just lay off the shaming.  it isn't helpful at all.[/quote]

I don’t think we are shaming, just pointing out that she has some agency in all of this too. Three kids don’t suddenly appear out of nowhere. She made this choice, with this guy. Now she needs to start making better choices. Like finding a job vs attending Al Anon meetings.[/quote]

Alcoholism is a family disease. OP needs the continual support of AlAnon to heal herself. OP, don't let posters disparage your support from AlAnon meetings.  Continue to prioritize your AlAnon meetings. It is tough having an active alcoholic, not in recovery, in the family.[/quote]

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