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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]But how does the 12 yr old feel about it?

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great - she's happy as a clam and is often offering to help even when I don't need it.[/quote]

You won't know she is happy as a clam until she grows up.  She might be an extreme people pleaser.[/quote]

Agree. That's how she gets your attention - by being the perfect little parent helper.[/quote]

I’m the youngest of four. My oldest siblings didn’t have to “raise” me but my sister, who’s the oldest, was desperate for a baby sister and in so many pictures when I was a baby, she’s holding me with a huge grin. We’re still super close today and she has three kids of her own. She loved being a big sister - I think you’re projecting a lot of your own defensiveness onto larger families. The second born in my family is one of my brothers, and he’s an amazing father also to three kids. He’s actually a lot more involved than his wife and is always doing fun things with his kids. They both grew up to love kids. My other brother and I - numbers three and four - have less patience with kids because we didn’t really grow up with young kids around us.[/quote]

Oldest daughter of a large family here. You sweet summer child. You have no idea. [/quote]

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Actually I don't think you can claim to know this. 
I'm the opposite - I was one of two and longed for siblings so much. [b] I was maternal and would have loved this role. [/b] I now have a larger sized family.  It really is dependent on the child and what they like. Some love the number of children in their family, clearly some think it's too many and some (like me) think it wasn't enough. I found it isolating being raised essentially as an only as my sibling was much older and dinners out with two older parents were "boring".  People on this thread act as if being raised with only 1 or 2 children is ideal.  It may be for some, and not for others. 
There isn't a "right" answer. So much generalizing. [/quote]

DP. Middle child/first girl here. I was maternal too, and that made things WORSE because adults felt even more entitled to take advantage and neglect.

I love when the first girl is “the difficult one.”[/quote]

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