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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP I'm sorry, I don't care if the family has billions of dollars. That's a gross observation. It doesn't matter how over the top this is or how spiritual it is for the family, they have a right to do whatever they want to do. This is your failure. It is your job to help your child be well-adjusted socially. Facilitating hangouts starting with elementary School play dates, getting them involved with extracurriculars outside of school, doing meaningful things with cousins and extended family, quality time with siblings, etc. You do the things you have to do to build up your child so they feel confident.

Sorry I know that's really harsh but when you bring the family's net worth into it and take into account that these are teenagers, it's just getting ridiculous. The ship sailed on inviting the whole class a long time ago, and if you put your socially disadvantaged child in a snobby private school, shame on you. [/quote]

Found the a55hole parent.[/quote]

Maybe, but I'm actually trying to help. I don't think OP or her child staying in this mentality is actually going to serve them well the next 5 years.[/quote]

Maybe you are trying to help, but you are being too harsh.  You are making a lot of assumptions here based on little information. OP said she just wanted to help her child through this.  Many of us have been in this position and it is painful.  And blaming the OP for her child not being invited is just completely ridiculous.   Makes me wonder about you, actually.[/quote]

You know what? You are right. I re-read what I wrote yesterday and it was harsh and made unfair assumptions. OP- I apologize. I was having a bad day but that's no excuse. To help your DS through this, try spending quality time as a family doing something special he enjoys, and see if there is at least 1-2 friends who might want to join, or come over for a fun evening. Help him enjoy what he's got going on socially. Fancy bar mitzvahs aren't always fun, anyway. They can be loud, annoying, or otherwise uncomfortable. Encourage him to shake it off.
Again, I'm sorry I was mean.[/quote]

I am the PP above you and I just want to say thank you, you are a DCUM rarity.   I hope you are having a much better day today.[/quote]

I’m impressed too. [/quote]

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