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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We travel quite a bit, I wouldn’t say a lot, because we have one easy tween and we all enjoy it. 
What we don’t have is Stanley Cups and apple AirPods. Most of her peers at her  Christian private do. I don’t feel bad. I choose not to spend my money on stuff like that. 
Spending is about making choices. Don’t feel bad for the ones you make for you family. [/quote]

Is this really a good trade-off for your tween, though?  
My mom was like this.  She grew up poor, was in 4H, and made most of her own clothes.  Then she went to medical school, married my dad who went to law school, and sent us all to UMC public school. My mom thought that in-season clothes and accessories were beyond ridiculous and money was better spent on other things.  The thing is, that’s really the only time in your life it really matters.  When I was 14, 15, 16, I would have given up almost anything to look like the other kids and wear the kinds of clothes that the other kids had.  [/quote]

My mom also grew up poor, raised us UMC, and thought in-season clothes and accessories were wasteful. But she raised her daughters so that we wouldn’t have “given almost anything” to look exactly like 14-15-16 year olds. I don’t think your mom’s failure was in her values, it was not raising you with them. [/quote]

These aren’t my adult values. I’m not in eighth grade anymore.  I also went to med school and work with opiate addicts.  No one gives a crap what I wear now.  
But in those years it matters.  Kids teased me and made fun of me.  It was a lot harder to fit in most social groups. 
No one wants to be the weird kid who looks different in eighth grade.  
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