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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When I got married, I genuinely thought I was going to have a great relationship with my ILs (3 sisters and parents) but over time it became apparent that their expectation was different from mine: I was expected to attend, celebrate them, contribute cash when told, but they would not communicate with me directly and nothing was ever phrased as a question (can you attend? would you like to . . .x?). The fundamental disconnect was that I was supposed to get that their status as aunts and grandparents to my children came before my status as mom. [b]The glaring example of this is when my first child's first birthday was scheduled at my SIL's without asking me. [/b]For a while, I just opted out of everything and this was a major friction point in my marriage. I've learned to take them in small doses to keep the peace, expecting no respect but just ignoring or declining most demands. It would have been easier if I started from a place of expecting nothing, but it also would have been easier if they had bothered with the simple respects they expect for themselves. We'll never be close, just mildly congenial.[/quote]

That is just weird.[/quote]

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