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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you are a happily married feminist, and your spouse is a man, [b]what is your husband like[/b]? Are there traits or green flags that men can exhibit that would suggest that they would romantically pair well with a feminist?[/quote]

My husband and I are both feminists in that we both believe in equality and advocate for women's rights, we vote for leaders who do the same, we both see that men have historically been prioritized over women and that women have been treated unjustly throughout history, we talk w/ our kids about gender stereotypes and sexism and strongly refute any sexist/misogynistic talk that comes up from the kids or in movies/tv/books/the news.

On paper, we have a more traditional marriage: he works and I am a stay at home mom. This was entirely my choice (my husband would have supported me either way, whether I chose to be a SAHM or chose to keep working after we had kids) and it works for us. I genuinely wanted to be a stay at home parent. I love being home w/ my kids. I even enjoy managing the household tasks. Yes, I do the majority of the cooking, cleaning, chores, errands, and almost all kid-related planning and managing (signing kids up for activities, taking them to the Dr., planning play dates w/ their friends, buying them clothes, etc.) but my husband does a lot with the kids when he's not at work. he's a very involved dad. I'd say he is the primary parent in the evenings and on weekends and holidays. He comes home and totally takes over whatever is going on w/ the kids (helping w/ homework, playing with them, reading to them, taking them to activities, taking them to bed, giving them baths, etc.).

How is he as a partner? Kind, loving, sensitive, thoughtful, generous, considerate. He is the best partner I could ever hope for. He is a great listener, he cares deeply about me, he values me and respects me, he is a wonderful lover. [/quote]
How old are your kids, and what do you plan to do once they are in school all day?
Also, did your DH set up a retirement account for you in your name?[/quote]

No PP but in a very similar situation.  I see where you are going with this question.  All of our money is joint.  I have full access to all of our accounts. Not every woman is a relationship where they need to protect themselves.  We have a marriage that comes first.  I don't need a retirement account in my name.  I don't get or need an allowance, I could go buy a car today if I wanted to and DH wouldn't care.  Not all relationships like this involve an a hole guy. [/quote]

That’s what they all say, until they come sobbing on the Relationship Forum that wonderful husband is cheating or wants to divorce. [/quote]

Not going to happen. But  if it did, financially, I would be fine.[/quote]
Because women are never blindsided by an affair or divorce. Ever.[/quote]

Yes, yes by all means continue to bore us with you relationship woes. I notice all the career women who are so contented with their situations all over these forums. They get to be overworked, exhausted and miserable their whole lives. How exciting. [/quote]

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