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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm not going to flame you. I really appreciate that my DH has stayed in excellent shape during our 25 year marriage. No belly. Nice muscle tone. Always smells good. Dresses well. Of course, I would still love him if he got fat and dressed poorly but I wouldn't be turned on. Drive fade over time anyway; I definitely don't need a disgust factor pushing mine lower. I think staying attractive is even more important for a woman since men are such visual creatures. I exercise and watch my weight carefully because it makes me feel good, but my primary motivation is staying attractive for my husband. Would he still love me if I didn't? I think yes. But I'm sure he wouldn't be as attracted to or proud of me. It's a tough spot you're in - I think you're right that you can't say anything. But if she ever volunteers that she wishes she had more time for exercise or that she wishes she could get her eating under control, definitely jump in and tell her you'll do whatever you can to support her. I've had periods of flabbiness during our marriage - took the longest time bouncing back after the third kid - I'm talking 10 extra pounds but I hated the way I looked and felt. And my husband (wisely) never said a word, but when I mentioned joining a gym, he eagerly said, "I'll help you make that happen. Whatever I need to do, so you can have that time." It was nice - also confirmed to me that he'd noticed the extra pounds too and wanted to support me in taking them off.[/quote]

Yes, SAHM, we got it on your last post. [/quote]

That was my first post here and I didn't read anything other than the first OP before replying.
-Working mom[/quote]

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