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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are a small-minded and miserable woman. And your husband is dumb enough to report back to you what she said (also you don’t know if he exaggerated to rile you up). You two sound like a good match. [/quote]

How am I small minded? Because I call MILs out on sticking their nose where it doesn’t belong.

Let’s see how you react when your mil does the same thing.[/quote]

So let's be clear here. It's Mils's business to ask how your pregnancy is going. if you are feeling well if you are tired? However it's not her business to ask how her son is doing?  If she asks after her son she is judging you and your marriage.

Do I have this correct?[/quote]

My point is that I had a super rough pregnancy and labor which is a lot more than her son went through yet she didn’t seem to care about me at all because she never asked but her son seems tired which is a natural thing for a first time parent of a young baby and she acts concerned about.

Also interesting how we were together all day and then she waifs until I leave the room to ask my husband that question.

That’s the part that really stuck out to me that it was her passive aggressive way of hinting that I’m not doing enough.[/quote]

Oh so you're a controlling narcissist..  This entire thing makes sense now[/quote]

How am I a controlling narcissist? I told you my mil didn’t ask about me at all and a tough pregnancy and labor is a lot more serious than seeming tired.

That’s what bothered me she seemed to only view me as an incubator for her grandchild.

So her precious baby boy is tied. It’s not good mil to not show any concern for your DIl.[/quote]

Where are your parents? Are they scared of you too?[/quote]

Because I’m upset people must be afraid of me.[/quote]

Well, where are your parents?[/quote]

Why is that relevant? They live on the other side of the country.[/quote]

So they didn't bother to come out to help you postpartum? No phone calls? Nothing? Or did you forbid that because you wanted to do it all on your own  and it would be this great fun bonding time. But that's not reality, and now you realize you that it's not working you lash at your MIL[/quote]

My mom wanted to come out but I[b] said no because my husband and I can handle it.[/b] She came out for a week when the baby was 2 months old.[/quote]

As I thought. Narcissitc control freak. [/quote]

So wouldn’t it be worse if I didn’t apply the rules to both mil and my own mother?

A control freak? This is my own child. Don’t I as a mother have a right to say who and when can be around my child?

This is my own mother. Who else would make that decision?[/quote]

So you have childhood trauma, right?

Lots of people decide. You, your H, the babysitter, grandparents, teachers, neighbors, coaches, etc.

You won’t be able to control every person who comes into contact with your child nor should you.

Have you had therapy for your trauma?[/quote]

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