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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This does not sound like a work vs not work thing.

It sounds like you are a 'sad sack'. Are you? Are you sad? Are you struggling with your new life?

I think you are, because if you are not, the comment would not bother you.

My mother use to say, if somebody calls you a duck do you think "am i a duck" no... because you know you are not.

If somebody says "you're fat, or ugly, or stupid" and you get upset, it's because you think it about yourself. [/quote]

Or maybe because it's incredibly rude to insult people that way? Do you actually call family members ugly and fat?[/quote]

No. But my aunt told me I could use some plastic surgery, she did it and healing was fast. I laughed out loud. My H's eye's popped out of his head. But I never felt hurt becuase... i don't need plastic surgery.

Nobody can hurt you without your permission.[/quote]

Sure, but it doesn't mean you should want rude, nasty people around you spouting nonsense.[/quote]

I didn't say you should surround yourself with people who are nasty, but just like middle school kids you can't always control your surroundings. You can control your reaction to your surroundings.

Who actually expects to receive a ton of support from their MIL anyway? A supportive MIL is a unicorn, they are from a different generation, grew up in a different culture and have different life experiences. [/quote]

I don't have a supportive mil, but I also don't have one who insults me to my face. If she did I would not want her around. You can actually control your surroundings to some extent: you would not stay at a job with a boss who is demeaning, stay friends with someone who tries and puts you down...[/quote]

Op's MIL said 1 mean thing, once in her whole relationship. but go ahead and be a drama queen about MIL being akin to an abusive boss. [/quote]

I said demeaning, not abusive. OP is the one who knows if there is a pattern or not.[/quote]

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