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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I think you should have titled this “7 year old daughter brags too much, what to do”. This is not about whether she is smart, not smart, not as smart as she thinks, not as smart as you think, etc. This is all about kids who boast too much. If she was particularly skilled at an I instrument, or singing, or stunningly beautiful, I think we can agree that she shouldn’t boast about it.

Kids in elementary do not like kids who boast too much. Neither do adults. Whether or not it’s justified. For her social well being, it’s best to correct this behavior. 
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Op. 
That's a good point, but I don't find her bragging about other things, it's really just the smartness.

I have tried to talk to her about this issue several times, but [b]I don't want to "knock her down", I want to redirect her. [/b]Thanks to all the pps who gave really helpful suggestions. 
Grateful for the  insight and ideas from this thread. It was very helpful overall. [/quote]

Pp. Yes, absolutely. Some of the advice given earlier has been great regarding that. And since she is bragging only about her intelligence, I would tread lightly, as you have been doing. She has decided that being smart is her identity, and I would try to diversify that. Just as we don’t define our kids as “Larla the gymnast” or “Larlo the pianist”.

“I always finish my work the first in the class. I don't know why it takes everyone else so long!"

Reply - I’m proud of how hard you work. Let’s remember that everyone works at their own pace and being happy with your work is more important than finishing fast.

"Did you know I got the second highest score in math?"

Reply - Wow, you studied very hard, congratulations! What was the most challenging part of the test?

"I am reading Macbeth"

Reply - Great honey, what do you like about the story?

"You spelled that incorrectly."
This, I would spend more time correcting. There are ways to call attention to mistakes that are polite and agreeable. And most kids at age 7 understand that it is not polite to correct adults in a blunt manner.

I think you have to be thoughtful about gender as well. Society is more forgiving of boastful boys than girls, and you have to separate any sense of injustice from your perception of how you would like a child of yours to behave, whatever the gender. In general, whether a child is gifted in math, skiing, joke telling, or the ukulele, we want them to be the types of kids that build other kids up, not bring them down. [/quote]

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