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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I gained a ton of weight over my late 30s and 40s and find myself in my early 50s working on major dietary and lifestyle changes to become a heavy plant eater who moves her body on the regular.

I've had undiagnosed BED for most of my life, I have clear memories of binge eating certain foods as a preschooler. It was tied to childhood trauma - feeding the hungry heart and blocking out uncomfortable thoughts.

I have to work on utilizing substitute behavioral strategies all the time and always will I expect - I just hope it will get easier with time, but I suspect it will always depend on my mood, present conditions in my life, etc.

I am become very focused on self care - good quality sleep, light box with green tea and walnuts (brain foods!) every morning, stretching, walking outdoors, weight lifting, eating really healthy most of the time which means reduced hunger. My gut is rebalanced and it honestly works like those weight loss drugs - your rebalanced happy gut drives positive mood (95% of serotonin is actually produced in the gut, not the brain), reduces food thinking, and naturally stimulates GLP-1 which reduces food urges.

OP I am sad about your situation and I don't think you are heartless. It is hard to watch someone let themselves fall into poor health - I watched myself do it to me and I was very frustrated and sad about it. Some of my going off the cliff was related to a very bad perimenopause and a longtime undiagnosed vitamin deficiency, but I was definitely eating garbage and lots of it and that was a primary cause. Your husband needs therapy for the ??? (probably childhood trauma) that is driving his overeating.

Has he ever worked out his ACE score? https://developingchild.harvard.edu/media-coverage/take-the-ace-quiz-and-learn-what-it-does-and-doesnt-mean/[/quote]

NP. This is one of the most helpful posts (to me) I've seen in the decade+ I've been on DCUM. This describes me so much (childhood trauma, undiagnosed BED, weight gain in my 40s, now 50s etc.)but am struggling to make the changes you are. Not to derail OP's thread but are you getting help from somewhere in particular? a therapist or program or book you could recommend? [/quote]

I agree. Such a helpful and empathetic post, informed by deep self-analysis and hard work on getting better. I have been catching myself thinking that my behaviors fit with the BED diagnosis, but not sure where to go for help. My spouse dismisses my thinking. He thinks I am fine. Yet I have gained 17 lbs in one year and I feel unhealthy.[/quote]

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