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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, in my experience, when your spouse has done some horrible things that they can’t take back:

1.  Counselling will not initially make you feel better but you have to do it anyway.  Individual and couples.  In counselling you might realize there were signs of this behaviour that you missed.  You might not have been as happy as you thought.

2.  It is going to take a really, really long time for you to feel affection for him.  Don’t even try at this point.

3.  There is going to be a new normal.  You will never feel the same way towards him.  It isn’t intolerable or anything, but there’s been a breach of trust that he can’t take back, if you do indeed stay with him.  You might love him again but it will be love informed by this terrible incident.

4.  This is going to take time.  Not days or weeks or even months, maybe years.  All for something that took him just a few minutes to do.

5.  Obviously no drinking ever again but I would all my conversations about this in the presence of a counselor.[/quote]

Thank you for this, PP. This was really helpful to read [/quote]

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