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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I worked with a very nice young woman once who had a baby then fell pregnant again two months after the birth because her husband who was a regular drinker would not respect her postpartum recovery at all. The unplanned baby wrecked her health - she developed a permanent thyroid condition among other issues doubtless from gestating a pregnancy in a body that was depleted and exhausted from having just completed the process a few weeks before conception of the next one.

There was a post from someone saying how they'd experienced this kind of rape with boyfriends more than once before and had put her off men altogether. Just want you to know that you're not alone, I experienced sexual assault by a partner more than once, guys who you would otherwise think were really great nice guys - there is a beast that resides it the heart of too many men, I think. Even a lot of otherwise nice-appearing men think of women's bodies as possessions, especially in the context of a relationship of some kind.

I lost my virginity this way at 14 and my last boyfriend at 40 did the same thing to me, having sex with my body when I was in a semiconscious state from cold medicine and illness and had refused him sex before asking to be left alone to sleep.

I'll never date another man I don't think. I'm 1000% heterosexual and at one time had a very high libido, but yet I find men repulsive and spent most of my adult life voluntarily celibate despite plentiful interest. Any time I let one in, they eventually showed they couldn't be trusted.

I read recently that scientists are working on a male contraceptive pill but they fear there would be little interest because of the modifying effects on testosterone levels. Personally I think we might achieve world peace if we could get all the men on such a pill. [/quote]

PP, I’ve had similar experiences, and it’s just so disheartening. I had to break off a relationship because my partner would not let me sleep. Every night, it was groping, humping, grabbing, grinding until I’d fall off the bed or just give up and sleep on the couch. It didn’t matter how much sex we had. I had no peace. My body wasn’t my own. Another guy, I ran into him years after we’d broken up, and he kept grabbing my butt…why?…because we’d had sex in the past and that meant I couldn’t treat him as “a stranger” and he had every right to touch my body wherever he wanted. I only got him off of me by telling him I had a boyfriend, and of course he then respected that my body belonged to another man so he couldn’t touch me. 
I don’t know what’s wrong with these men! Of course it’s not all of them, but it’s too damned many! [/quote]

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