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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I've wondered the same thing myself.

I have several friends who should probably teach a master class in "how not to be single".  They have all basically always had boyfriends or husbands - like they went straight from the high school boyfriend to the college boyfriend to the post-college dude to the husband.  And if they divorced, they found someone else right away.  I assume it's a combination of luck and possibly putting up with things I wouldn't.  Like the things that might make me break up aren't an issue for them. Or they're finding the next guy before breaking up.  I think in general, they are also relatively easygoing personalities and they are reasonably attractive women who aren't super hot, but kind of girl-next-door types.  I assume the combo if "attractive enough" and "easygoing" are pretty desirable to dudes.

(my most attractive friends seem to have some trouble in love - I think maybe it's harder to break through the noise of so much male attention to find the right guy.)

I'm not really like that. When I'm done with someone, I'm done.  I break up, take lots of time as a single person, and then eventually find someone else - maybe.  I've never been married and sometimes go years between relationships.  But I have good relationships with family and lots of friends, so I don't think it's really any sort of "issue" per se.  [/quote]

This is an interesting observation. I do think some women are just relationship-prone. Same with men. Some people just don't really do single, and if the break up with someone, they'll start looking for someone instantly. I know a couple widows/widowers who were the same. Mourning period but then almost instantly in long-term relationships.

I'm married, but I'm like you. I don't mind being single at all. I am one of those people who met my spouse when I wasn't looking. Met him at a party when he'd just gotten out of a relationship, instant attraction. But it took me two years to move in and five to marry him because I'm just very independent. I had friends who were like "lock him down! He's a catch!" but it's not about that -- I love him but I would have been okay alone too.

It's just different dispositions. When I was single, I didn't think of myself as unlucky in love. I just wasn't going to waste my time with anyone unless it felt just right. So I walked away from guys who wanted relationships and took breaks from dating if it didn't feel like it was meeting my expectations.

People on DCUM will say I'm too picky and demanding and must make my DH miserable but nope. He appreciates how independent and self-sufficient I am. We're very happy, have a kid, never fight. I respect his independence too. We're raising a confident kid who knows her own mind and is social but doesn't mind being in her own. It takes all kinds but I like our way.[/quote]

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