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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think too many on this thread are eager to chalk up behavior to mean girl antics. I'm the same age as op and with plenty of acquaintances but few friends and zero friends I can trust. I honestly think it's my fault, I have insecurities and awkwardness when it comes to getting close but some strong women see past that and it's easier one on one. I've heard some accuse others I know of being mean (its easy when they fit the bill of being beautiful, standoffish or connected) but when you get to know them, they're just juggling life like anyone else. 
I won't say they don't exist but through school, sports, play groups and scouts I've really only met a couple classic "mean girl" archetypes. [/quote]

If you forget someone's name that you have met multiple times or you forget their kid goes to your school, thats not "life" and if it is you apologize or say something like:

"I need a new memory stick. I am sure we have sage.
d about this before but can you remind what grade and where your kids go to school? Oh okay! Geesh youd think I could remember that! Does X like Ms. Harbin for science?"

And sometimes you are right, it isnt mean girl, its people who want to seem important or stressed from their many obligations. The tired martyr trope. And the other complication is that people arent engaged in conversations anymore. They either have their phone out or doing other things or not giving someone attention or better yet, waiting for when they can talk again.

I have also found there are women who only want to be friends with women like them and/or women who fit their family aesthetic or increase the connections their family has. Power by proxy/affiliation/closeness. They arent mean but they arent nice unless they think you have something to offer them. [/quote]
Tired martyr tropes to "seem more interesting" are not as common as people sincerely being worn thin. Look at the myriad of threads here discussing how hard it is to "do it all". People have a lot of problems that consume their thinking.[/quote]

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