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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]^ I thought the same thing:). My exhusband thought 2 times a week was sexless at 20 years- so he supplemented once a month with some other married ho.  They Really did not expect the level of fallout that occurred to two families. All fun and games …[/quote]

I suspect one reason OP is so willing to entertain this idea is because they seem to be empty nesters so she might think of her kids as unaffected if she gets caught. That's so naive of her; she's happy to risk her adult kids' respect for her. And adult kids, who understand what sex and cheating really mean, actually may be far angrier at a cheating parent than young kids could ever be. She also is arrogant enough she assumes her DH will never find out, her kids will never know, she'll never get caught. And she's using her DH's alcoholism as an excuse to cheat too. But she's already come back to say she's happy about responses which helped her justify her craving to cheat, so she won't ever see this post or think about her adult kids re: her cheating.[/quote]

I’m an adult and it would not affect my respect and love for my parents one bit if one of them were to cheat. As an adult, I realize there’s more to a marriage than sex. They’ve put in the time; their bodies are their own. [/quote]

Betrayal is huge. It would feel like a betrayal to the whole family to me.[/quote]

You’re making it weirdly personal. If my mom cheated on my dad, it’d have nothing to do with me whatsoever. If I cheated on my DH, it would have nothing to do with my parents.  It’s honestly their personal matter and that’s how I would see it. Boundaries . [/quote]

Wrong. You can’t determine how your kids would feel.  I know too many people that never got over a parent’s affair and it colored what they thought of them.

I’d be very disappointed to learn my child was a cheater in their marriage.  They obviously didn’t learn values and I’d feel responsible. If it broke up the grandkids’ home it would be very disappointing.

Cheating runs in families and causes generational trauma.[/quote]

Well I’m a kid to my parent and I know how I would feel. I’m also pretty sure that if I cheated and told my parents, they wouldn’t give a crap. I mean they’d probably wouldn’t approve but our relationship would not change. [/quote]
Your parents wouldn’t care if your actions and poor decisions led to, for example, a divorce? That is odd.[/quote]

She’s a cheater from a cheating family.  Obviously, the family is only that in name.[/quote]

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