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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think at some point, you stop being a victim and become a volunteer. All that time you spend in the gym, getting into the "best shape of your life", just find a quiet affair partner.

The feigned helplessness is boring and an illusion. Your own happiness is, and has always been, within your own reach.[/quote]

I dont recommend an affair.  That's a cheap and dirty way out.  Just bite the bullet and make the necessary arrangements for a divorce while still remaining active in your children's lives.  BTW--Physical custody is not a given to the mother any more.  Again, you should not be on an anonymous forum but in an attorney's office.  Preferably, a female baracuda.  [/quote]

Divorce is not preferable to an affair. An affair is better for you and for your kids. Living 50% of time with your kids is not enough for many people. Divorce is horrifically expensive and difficult. And your kids will be affected. But living a life of quiet desperation is also not necessary. If you can still have an affectionate, happy relationship with your spouse, then just have the quiet affair. Quiet NSA involvements. Your marriage will probably improve because you won't be chasing for intimacy anymore and so can appreciate it when it is offered. It will ease pressure in the relationship. Even if your spouse finds out, very few affairs actually end marriages. In fact, it will probably shock her into changing her ways or maybe into opening up the marriage. If not, you go back to the status quo. But what do you actually lose? There is this idea that having an affair and staying married is having your cake and eating it too. But it's not. Having intimacy when married, rather than celibacy, is SUPPOSED to be what a marriage looks like. It's not some special gift for greedy people. The affair just gets you to having your cake. It makes you equal to other marriages. Your spouse doesn't deserve fidelity and probably doesn't want it so stop wasting it on them.[/quote]

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