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[quote=Anonymous]"People. You're missing the forest for the trees! It's not really about the syllabus. It's about being proactive and resourceful! If you need information, FIRST try to figure it out for yourself, whether that's by reviewing the syllabus or an internet search or whatever. If you cannot find the information after a good faith effort, THEN go ask the appropriate person whatever question you have.

So your kid isn't familiar with a syllabus. Fine. But why wouldn't a student review first whatever their teacher or prof gave them to determine if the material contains the information they need? That's one of the points OP was making. Be resourceful! Be proactive! Do as much as you can to figure it out for yourself before going to the prof. And this concept has to start when kids are young, which is why it's on parents. You cannot expect an 18 year old to suddenly be independent and resourceful if you never required them to figure things out for themselves growing up."

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I don't get why parents are being so defensive here.

Here's a great way to teach this: When searching for colleges, take the time to look at the school's website where they will tell you all sorts of things like whether the school requires all students to take certain classes freshman year, whether they require all freshman to live on campus, whether you have to apply into a specific major, what GPA is required for merit awards, and so on. Do not waste everyone's time during your campus visit asking these questions. It's about being resourceful, doing some work yourself, and not abusing the time of other people.

It's also about teaching kids (while in high school) that they should not ask for the person in charge to make exceptions to the rules just for them. If your DC is going on a class trip to Washington, DC with a tour group and the tour group's website says to only bring a carry-on and the small backpack they provide to each participant, don't let your DC show up with a full-size suitcase. Explain to your DC that there's probably a reason they need to limit luggage and that unless your DC has a medical need to requires them to take along special medical equipment, they should just follow the rule and not expect that it doesn't apply to them. People need to learn (while they're young) that they aren't more special than everyone else. Too many kids from UMC backgrounds grow up thinking the rules for "the little people" don't apply to them.

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