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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People who want kids to address them Mrs. Mr. etc while allowing adults to address them by their first name, are on a power trip. [/quote]Adults pretending to be overly familiar with kids is what puts kids in a weird spot. Kids don’t want to be your peers, and adults are the problem when they remove that boundary. [/quote]

Honorifics are all about hierarchy and authority, not familiarity. [b]If you are fine with me calling you Lisa, but not my child, you concern is not familiarity but your hierarchical status.[/b] A child does not owe you any level of deference, only the courtesy and respect that they should show to any human being regardless of age. [/quote]

This is unequivocally wrong. Familiarity doesn't mean knowing someone's name.  My friends can call me not only my name but my nickname because they are my friends, and yes I am more familiar with them.  Their kids are known to me, but we don't talk on the phone, we don't go out for drinks together, we don't give each other work advice, we haven't seen each other through ups and downs and marriage/death/divorce.  You seem to think "I've met you once, now prove you deserve to be respected" is the universal "American" cultural norm, irrespective of age of the interlocutors, and anyone who deviates from it needs to explain themselves.  Not so.[/quote]

Give me a break. [b]Your given name conveys no sense of familiarity[/b], it’s how most people, known and unknown,  are addressing you. You just have a different rule for people below a certain age.

[b]Nicknames or pet names are a completely different thing and kids understand intimacy very well.[/b] They don’t even call their own parents by a pet name in public nor do they want peers to use a pet name or nick name that only their parents use. Intimacy has nothing to do with age. 
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Again, wrong and wrong, but so very adamant.  [b]You've also spent this entire thread defending a kid calling an adult Jenny, which is a nickname, so not just wrong but hypocritical.[/b]  But you seem very confident that your particular opinion is somehow a fact, and people who have different norms are not just different by secretly sadistic towards children, so carry on with your blinkers on and someone else will have to engage you going forward.[/quote]

NP. Not necessarily. I know at least three Jennys who are just Jenny, not Jennifer.[/quote]

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