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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a parent of two, I consider a third because I think having more kids diffuses competition and self centeredness among overly coddles two children families.

My husband is one of two and his sister, although nice, is one of the most vain and self centered (and spoiled) people I’ve met. I 100% believe this outcome is a result of my in laws providing too much intense attention and coddling.

In general people I know from bigger families are close with their siblings and learned early how to exist amongst other people.

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As someone who comes from a family of four, more children don't diffuse competition. You just give up and resign to the fact that your parents are not going to be able to meet many of your emotional needs. You are forced to grow up and become independent quickly, often leaping past developmental stages.[/quote]

I’m sorry PP, that sucks. I’m also 1 of 4 kids, and my parents did a lot of stuff wrong (ha), but they did raise us to celebrate and enjoy our siblings. There was no competition between us, and I believe that is because our parents made sure to never compare us - we were celebrated as individuals with our own strengths and weaknesses.

I don’t know how they did it, but they did meet my emotional needs and I had a “normal” childhood in terms of development and independence. It probably helped A LOT that was mom was a SAHM. [/quote]

My parents did not do anything wrong, they did the best they could. They were very hard working, dedicated parents. There just simply wasn't enough time or resources! My father worked long hours, my mom part-time. There was barely enough time in the day to do the basics: cook, clean, laundry, groceries, school pickups, activity drop offs etc. There was little to no time for my mom to check homework or spend enough 1-1 time with me to notice when i was sad or something was off. As the eldest, even as a child, you implicitly understand that the 2 year old needs to be fed, needs to be bathed, needs to see the doctor, more than you need comforting because someone was mean to you in school. This is also what i mean by competition too, not some aggressive sibling rivalry.  The more people you throw into the mix, the more basic needs there are even as a parent's attention and time are finite. You are forced to mature quickly.[/quote]

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