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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I'm pissed this thread became a pile-on of a bunch of people telling anyone talking about their struggles that actually they don't have struggles and should stop talking about it. I think a lot of you have MAJOR issues that this is how you choose to spend your time.

Anyway, I'm going to go through and report a bunch of these comments as off-tope and ask Jeff to clean up the thread because I actually do think it could be a source of support and commiseration for people who need it. If that's not you, you can go away. Thanks![/quote]

Hi OP- [b]I think what might be contributing the most to your malaise is grief over not having a second kid.  It wasn't really a choice, it was taken from you.

I, too, missed our window during 2021-2022.[/b] I know we are out there.  There needs to be a support group for us.  I've really thought about starting one.

Parenting your one while mourning, MOURNING your second/the possibility/the hope, is HARD.  It's exhausting.  The Crippling grief.  The self-flagellation and feelings of failure-"why is it so hard, I only have one."  The guilt over no sibling.  The anger- lots of anger.

And because it's so intertwined with COVID it's hard to tease apart.  For a long time I thought my malaise was mostly due to COVID, but since winter of 2022, it's been grief.  COVID was the crappy foundation from which everything else flows.

It's taken me nearly two years and a lot of therapy to not cry everyday.  And it's still hard.

It sounds like you are doing better than I was, but I hope this is somewhat helpful and you consider finding a therapist/grief counselor.  Hugs.

You are not alone but I know it can feel that way.

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OP & PP - can I ask why you didn't / couldn't have a baby due to Covid, or during that initial pandemic year? Was is stress, anxiety about getting sick, funk / too much on your plate, REs that closed for a period, were you working in-person as HCWs etc.?
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