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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The self righteousness of parents with two or less children commenting on this thread is laughable.  The subject is "Parents of three...." and yet here you are, four pages into it with these mean and usless comments.  Go away!

Three is perfect and I believe there's a season for every child; give yourself grace OP -  we all have a stage that is hardest for us to parent and that usually makes the bonding harder as well.   I have three, all the same gender and while every relationship is different, I believe they'd all say they are the favorite or least favorite depending on the day.  
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I don't think the input of other parents with 3 kids is that helpful when the impulse is to say "is love them all equally" or "no this is not a problem." For OP, it is a concern, so those responses aren't useful.

Whereas the responses from people who grew up in 3 kid families are actually useful. People are saying "here's what worked, here's what didn't." It's productive because OP can read them and get real input that could help her now. Even hearing from people who resented being one of three is useful, because if they explain why, OP can avoid those pitfalls.

I think the most useful advice on this thread is a to make sure all your kids have a firm role and identity in the family. That's advice specific to 3 kid families that not everyone heeds but can make a real difference in family harmony.[/quote]

But op said her therapist asked her to ask other parents of three how they felt about their third. So your opinion doesn’t really matter.

OP is a pathological lying troll though because no parent of three kids knows no otter parents of three kids and no therapist tells a patient to go out and ask parents of three kids if they feel bonded to the third. OP just wants to put families of three down so she started a thread under ridiculous pretenses to do that and has been sick puppeting the entire time to stir the pot. Why anyone feels entitled to judge larger or smaller families is crazy to me. I don’t care if someone only wants one or two kids and no one should care that I have three kids. An optimal number of kids differs in each family. And the idea that any birth order position is inherently ruinous is stupid. 
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Is anybody other than this highly defensive/insecure PP getting troll or pot-stirring vibes from the OP?  I'm not!  I think she just meant that she isn't close enough with any other 3-kid moms to ask them this question IRL.  Not that she literally isn't acquainted with any families with 3 kids.  And I don't think she said anything disparaging about families with three kids either.  FWIW, I always wanted 3 kids.  I have only 2 due to secondary infertility.  The age gap between my two is very large, and I did find it hard to bond with the baby when my older child was already like this whole real cool person, not just a toddler/preschooler.  It was like the juxtaposition or something just made it harder.  But that feeling passed rather shortly.  [/quote]

Nope. She said she didn’t know any parents of three, hon. But you’re probably the OP sock puppeting so glad you’re able to clarify your lie. [/quote]

I'm truly not the OP.  Truly.  Is there a way to check -- please please do.  I know what the OP said, I'm telling you how I read it.    Look I don't get troll vibes here.  Maybe I'm wrong![/quote]

Me again.  Also, why attack me of all people?  I shared that this happened to me as a mom of 2; in other words, I do not think that OP's feelings are a function of having a large family.  I'm not putting down large families in the slightest.  [/quote]

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