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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DCUM is hilarious. One beer a couple times a month means he’s a secret alcoholic or serial cheater? lol[/quote]

I used to be this naive too.  You live long enough you will see the majority of people are full of secrets and dysfunction.  [/quote]

I'm sorry that you were betrayed.  But I think that you've gone to the other extreme.  You are not suspicious of every guy that is out there and that's not healthy either.  It's wise to be wary and aware of red flags, but not to immediately assume every potential red flag is automatically an indication that there is a problem.

This is perfectly normal behavior.  Just because some cheaters or alcoholics will mask their behavior as normal behavior does not mean that all who partake of normal behavior are automatically cheaters or alcoholics.  So, it would be wise for OP, at some point, when things are calm and relaxed to have a conversation with her husband about what's going on.  She can start by saying that she noticed that he needed to stop for a beer on the way home this week.  She can ask if there is anything stressful going on at work and have a normal conversation about their day-to-day activities.

If there are multiple red flags, then she can start trying to dive deeper, but this alone is not a concern.[/quote]

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