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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Following this thread, especially the posts about auditory processing, because OP, I feel like I am also married to your husband.

[b]Do shells instead of penne really matter?[/b] No. But when it happens on a daily basis, you start to feel like you’re losing your mind, because you know you said it/wrote it down. So if you aren’t losing your mind, I at least feel like my life partner is perpetually checked out/not present, and that’s not a great feeling either (and neither is being called out for mistakes, I get that).

Wish you luck navigating this, OP.[/quote]

Penne is useless for pasta salad. Rotini is actually better than shells, in my opinion. I will say that he did at least buy two different kinds of pasta rather than not buying any because he didn't know what shells were?

OP, I really feel for you, and I think your husband has handled many of this situations poorly and put you in a bad spot. However, for your own sanity, assuming you decide to stay married to him, could you just let EVERYTHING go for a while and see how it works? The way I see it, he makes a mistake (i.e. books a flight for the wrong time) and then you (1) tell him he did the wrong thing and he blows up and (2) have to fix it. (I'm not blaming you for telling him, by the way, just pointing out that that's a step in this process). What if instead you just (2) fixed it? You're having to fix it either way, but you're avoiding his blow up.

I get that you want him to acknowledge his mistake and apologize for it. That's what a normal, kind human being, never mind a spouse, should do. But your husband isn't that guy. I wonder if just not engaging when he does the wrong thing will help keep your blood pressure down since you're not going to get from him what you need.

If that doesn't work, then yeah, he needs to learn to fix it or you need to leave. But it doesn't sound like he's going to be willing to fix it?[/quote]

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