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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My mom used to tell us when we were kids not to expect an inheritance because she was going to spend "every damn cent!"
It's not like we asked...but we were told that frequently even as little kids.
Like your family, my parents inherited a lot of money after all of us kids were grown with families of our own.  My parents retired and spent, spent, spent.   Multiple luxury vacations every single year, brand new luxury cars, expensive remodels on their house, etc.   
Not one single penny to their kids.
Meanwhile I saw my aunts and uncles spending their inheritance taking THEIR kids (my cousins) on nice family vacations, helping them with down payments on houses, etc.

It does hurt, but there's nothing we can do except try to be different towards our own kids.[/quote]

I hear you, PP. My in-laws are like that - and then they're wondering why no one in our family wants to be 'close' to them. Well, what goes around comes around.[/quote]

Oh, they need to cough up money if they want their children to be close to them in old age?

How transactional can you get![/quote]

Not the poster you are addressing. I was there constantly for my dad out of choice-I loved him. I dealt with countless issues and mom losing her mind. I went through many tantrums from her to get her to accept help so he could be away from her rage and she could get a break. Since he has passed every time I visited and did anything for her she started doing her inheritance dance of constant threats and manipulations. So did the oppositive of what she was trying to get from this, I distanced. I have a job, kids, husband with health issues, my own health issues and it was becoming truly toxic. How many times do I have to say, "do what you want with your money, but please stop bringing it up." It's disturbing, rude and inappropriate. If you chose to be so obnoxious with the money talk then there are consequences. It is so freeing not to hear that talk anymore. I see her less and has soon as she starts up, I leave. Money does not entitle anyone to be rude.[/quote]

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