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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I believe OP.

Mid-30s the top tier men are either married and fathers or soon-to-be fathers or dating younger.[/quote]

The relatively good looking divorced dads of means are dating much younger women. 40-yr old neighbor, dad of two young boys, moved in when he and his (successful, pretty, same-age-as-him) wife separated. Within 6 months he had a 25 year-old girlfriend who clearly thought he hung the moon. The 25-yr old (who doesn't even seem to have a job) has since moved in. A 35-yr old would know this guy doesn't hang the moon, and he knows it. He isn't picking the young dummy because she's pretty, he's picking her because he knows that deep down he's a loser and older women would sniff it out quickly.

So there's that phenomenon going on. Divorced men dating 20-something women because they know the 30-something women wouldn't want them anyway (or they at least fear this). [/quote]

Yeah, the guy couldn’t be dating a 25-year-old because she’s hotter, more youthful and more fertile (qualities that men have valued since time immemorial). It must be that he is intimidated by the 35-year-old.  :roll:

Middle-age woman cope is really a sight to behold![/quote]

I think it boils down to the early and mid 30s “girl boss” women — even if they are still very attractive — just tend to have a lot of baggage and hangups. Not their fault. How can you not have a lot of baggage and trauma if you’ve been unsuccessfully dating men for 15 to 20 years. Plus decades of birth control screwing up your hormones, maybe an abortion, and all the stress that comes with a career, which requires you to be a bit pushy and elbowy.[/quote]

What a misogynist!

Oh and birth control didn't screw up my hormones and also made it so I never needed an abortion.

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If a woman in her 30s and both single and childless, after four years of undergrad, X years of advanced degrees, a career in a major city, and various boyfriends and hookups through the years, it is very likely she’s been on birth control off and on for upwards of 20 years and possibly has had an abortion. BC is not 100% and women go off it from time to time, especially when single.

Whether you want to admit to it or not, this is all BAGGAGE.[/quote]

Ok now I know you are nuts. No, most women on bc have not had an abortion, and most women have not had an abortion. And whether or not she has had one or been on birth control is not baggage in the least. It’s basic human hygiene. This is like saying that thirty years of brushing your teeth is baggage. Ludicrous.[/quote]

We are not talking about “most women,” the cohort the thread is about are successful 30-something girl bosses. The thread has digressed into single 30-something women who are unmarried and childless. If you get to such an advanced age without a marriage or baby, safe bet some history of BC, Plan B, and/or an abortion. They are not “hygiene” and they do impact your body and mind.[/quote]

BS. You have no idea what you were talking about.[/quote]

You apparently don’t know realize how the pill and Plan B works? And you think women who get abortions just forget about it afterwards? It’s permanent trauma. Failed relationships and hookups for 15 or 20 years are also a lot of trauma. It all takes a toll on you. This baggage impacts your hormones, your appearance, your disposition and personality and it all repels men. You can be in denial if you want to. It’s the truth. Marry young if you want to avoid this.[/quote]

Be warned ladies, the scarlet letter is upon you because of birth control and hook ups. No maiden’s tale hat necessary, not for these gents!  Bwahahahahahahha![/quote]

Do you really think:

- 15 years of failed relationships
- 15 years on the pill
- sporadic use of Plan B
- an abortion 
- stressful career
- student loan debt
- fertility clock ticking

Have no impact on you as a person? Really? Do you think every 33 year old bachelorette is a clean slate? You are in denial if you don’t acknowledge this all creates baggage. This is why the successful men are likely put off by women their age and instead go for women in their mid and late 20s. Less baggage, less hangups, not as pushy and high maintenance.[/quote]

Funny. If you think that birth control and paying for a graduate degree are insurmountable baggage you aren’t much of a man. Real men pluck these women and pay their loans without a second thought. If they marry women in their 20s they wind up paying for their degrees together anyway. My husband paid my 6-figure medical school loans when I was 35, because he was a grown up earning a real salary with real earning capacity.[/quote]

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