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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This kid is on the spectrum.  Not sure why OP insists he’s not. Or he’s super annoying.[/quote]

Agree. Autistic or very annoying know it all kid. OP, have you actually had him tested for autism??[/quote]

Why is everyone jumping to autism? Because the kid isn't reading chapter books and knows what a schooler is? Man. [/quote]

Becuase most of us know someone with Asperger's, and this is how they act. [/quote]

Exactly. OP, your job is to help him develop social skills and relationships with PEERS. Now he is relying on adults to help scaffold the interaction but when he is an adult the other adults will be PEERS and not giving of the same leeway, don't you see that? Does he get invited on playdates, sleepovers, birthday parties? I'm guessing no. Help him develop some interests that will connect him to peers, also a sports team of some kind. Maybe cross country. I'd have him evaluated and see if the school has some kind of social skills group or lunch bunch. The clock is ticking, help him while he is still young enough that it will be normal for you to be around him and peers so you can do some coaching in the aftermath. Soon that window will close. Your focus is misdirected. His self esteem and childhood will not be built on random moments with strangers. I wonder if you have social difficulty too, OP, that you cannot see this as odd? Are you or DH STEM or adjacent? [/quote]

OP, this PP is offering sound advice. He needs to be chatting and interacting with kids his age not adults. Have your son hang out and play with other kids his age as much as possible. Host play dates, sleepovers, trops to the water park, sign him up for rec sports teams, summer swim team, Boy Scouts, church youth group volunteering, anything that gets him with kids his age for several hours a day. Personally, I would also have him evaluated for autism. Once he is 15, his peers will have zero patience for a kid like this and you will be dealing with a socially isolated teenager. Get his social skills honed now! Good luck.[/quote]

What? He has social skills with his peers. What weird assumptions. [/quote]

He has normal friendships, kids don’t think he is weird or awkward? He has good friends he hangs out with several times a week? He is invited to parities etc.? The description of the kid sounded like he was very much an odd duck that struggles with social interactions by talking excessively. Is he appropriate with kids his age? He doesn’t dominate the discussions or interrupt with the right answer at school? Kids don’t find him annoying? These are the real questions, OP. [/quote]

Yes, he's invited to parties, both school and swim team. Kids show up when he invites. He doesn't dominate school. He's way better socially than I was (or am, if we're being honest).[/quote]

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