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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]One thing I think people in this thread are glossing over is that social media engagement is effectively her job/a major part of her job. Following his rules would be akin to asking her to quit her job and become financially dependent on him after only a few months of dating. Which is creepy and weird.

I still think she should never have released these, [b]but his “boundaries” (not boundaries at all, rules for her life) were not reasonable. [/b][/quote]

Yes, this. Boundaries are something [i]you[/i] won't do, not something that you won't let other people do. [/quote]

This is true but people get very good at twisting it because a lot of people do mostly just want to control other people.

Like in his texts, he’s basically framing it as “I won’t be in a relationship with someone who does XYZ.” So it sounds like he’s talking about his own boundaries.

But it doesn’t make sense because he knowingly entered into a relationship with someone who does those things, in fact he entered the relationship BECAUSE she does some of those things (if she wasn’t a surfer who posts bikini pics, he would never have DMed her).

So he can make it appear that he is simply talking about his limits, but it’s actually manipulative because he had different limits before and us suddenly changing them now that he feels he can.

That’s what people are identifying as an abusive behavior. If Hill doesn’t want to date women who do these things, he has the power to just… not date them. He CHOSE to start a relationship with someone who behaves in a way he thinks “violates his boundaries” but then assumed that he could change/control her once they were dating. That’s manipulative.

Most likely he was on a power trip due to his fame, and figured if she got a taste of dating a celebrity his level (red carpets, getting recognized, etc.), she would agree to change he behavior and personality to stay with him. Again: manipulative and disturbing.

If these were actually his boundaries, he would never need to articulate them this way. He’d just choose partners accordingly. These texts are actually all about seeing if she will acquiesce to not having her own boundaries, and letting him dictate the parameters of her own life. It’s a test.[/quote]

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