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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have no dog in this fight as I don’t expect alimony in the event of a divorce - I would just get half of our communal assets, including his pension and retirement savings.

That said, I can confirm that there are plenty of women out there who still get the short end of the stick because they throwaway or seriously backtrack their careers/job and income growth in order to support their family common goal.

My father was a doctor with crazy hours and eventually my mother had to stop working in order to support a decent family life, even though we had maids.

Maids and babysitters are hired help, and while they make life a lot easier, they do not make up for the presence of a parent. If only one parent is the one who always have to take the kids to doctors appointments, go to teacher/parent conferences, drop everything to rush to school/daycare on emergencies, take time off work or arrive late/leave early to deal with all of what life is constantly throwing at you, you bet that will impact that person’s career.

And it doesn’t get easier as the child grows older - matter of a fact it only gets harder as older children have more complex issues.

After my father asked for a divorce when I was 12 (so he could marry his cliché nurse mistress and ride his midlife crisis in all its glory), he somehow convinced my mother to leave the relationship without any division of assets.

He got us a house and furnished it and payed its rent until she died (lucky for him, only four years later).

He payed all the bills directly- my private school, extracurricular activities and utility bills.

Plus HE did a big grocery shopping every month and delivered it.

She had a nominal $ every month of about u$300.00 to use for incidentals, like weekly produce shopping, taking me to the movies or ice cream and such.

I never went without, but she did. If nothing else, at least the dignity of choosing where to live or which the brand of rice to buy.

It still baffles me that she agreed to this crap, but in some ways I understand- I highly doubt she would get the $$ to support our life after the divorce as it was if it was left for the courts to decide.

Even more so because he was a doctor and had plenty of opportunity to hide income, and she definitely didn’t have the financial resources to fight this legally. Or the $$ resources to live while the fight played out in courts.

Some people here need to get out of their bubble and realize that not all cases are equal and there are plenty of circumstances where alimony is warranted.[/quote]

Nobody is claiming there aren’t circumstances where alimony is warranted. But it should not be the default position under the law. It should be an exception. [/quote]

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