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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP is well within her rights to say no, but she should embrace it and do it with confidence. In the span of a few posts OP went from “we only have one child because our downtime is important to us” to “I make it a point to see my sister who lives 8 hours at least once a month and I help her with her children”.

Women don’t like women that are their in laws. A story that is as old as time. Just own it. 
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I don’t think this is super uncommon. We offered to babysit nieces/nephews on DH’s side after we married and were politely turned down (hey totally fine). We also asked for help once or twice (from DH’s siblings) after we had kids, and were politely turned down. DH’s parents did babysit a few times.  Seems like most families rely on ”mom’s side” far more. Off the top of my head, it is true for most people I know.  I have sisters only, so no personal point of comparison.

My ILs also don’t particularly like me and never have (nothing I personally did….am a different religion…really just a different branch of the same religion). That may have had an influence but the other son/DIL (a DIL they fully approve of) never got any childcare help either. She, too, relies on her side of the family. DH’s 3 sisters are all tight and traded childcare all the time.

I think this is quite common. [/quote]

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