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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There's a big difference between the silent treatment and ignoring your husband and kids, and saying, "I am feeling overwhelmed and need to go digest my feelings." You framed it as intentionally using the silent treatment in order to get the outcome that you wanted. That is dysfunctional and manipulative. And if he didn't know you two were having an argument, then you are a poor communicator. If your spouse hasn't figured out that you are upset about something, keep telling them until they get it.

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I’m not sure I know or care what the difference is between not talking to someone and taking a break and silent treatment. I do know my family, both DH and kids, know that when I’m quiet, it means I am upset and they know to give me some space. [/quote]

The silent treatment is when you remain silent even when they speak to you, about any topic, and you refuse to discuss what's actually bothering you. It's rude, childish, punitive, and unproductive. Taking a break is when you go into another space or request silence for a while, but you still respond when spoken to about other things, and you recognize the need for a civil adult conversation when you feel calm enough. It's minimally courteous and acknowledges the need for an adult conversation to resolve the issue.

If you can't even say aloud to your DH that you are upset, you have a communication problem in your marriage. You say he knows when you are upset, but you said in this situation that he did not realize there was even a disagreement. So which is it?[/quote]

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