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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why are millennials (men or women) having kids at all if all they are going to do is fight over who has to take care of them? Really! Why do you have kids?  This thread makes me so sad for all these kids. [/quote]

Your reading comprehension is less than desirable. It is about childcare plus household management and for most of us, plus having dual-income marriages. All three need to be balanced in order to work. Even if one person has a job and the other doesn't to take care of the children means that household stuff is still needing to be balanced. The balance is not childcare + house and working. If two people work and their childcare is outsourced to daycare, then childcare and house need to be taken care of by both outside of working hours.

I would love to work my 8.5 hours and then be with my kid in the morning and afternoon until bed 100%[b] but that means that the cooking, laundry, cleaning, organizing, grocery shopping, etc. all needs to be done 100% by my partner. [/b]And then we each have individual time and married time from after kid bedtime - our own bedtimes. What most people are complaining about is the situation where a working mom is doing 90% of the childcare before and after work plus 50% of the housework (or more).

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Strongly disagree with this and I think this is a major flaw in modern parenting in liberal circles.  The children should be involved in most of this.  You can most certainly spend time with your kids while they also help clean, prepare dinner, tidy up etc.  You don’t need to entertain your kids like so many modern parents do.  [/quote]

omfg of course  :roll:  But I was replying to the poster who said "fighting over who takes care of them" meaning we are seemingly trying to pawn the kids off, no we arent. Im not trying to clean toilets while my kid is in the bath. That makes me stressed. Of course, my son helps with dinner. He vacuums and mops. He makes his bed. We put away clothes together. We walk the dog together. He sets the table. Helps with unloading the dishwasher. Etc. 
But having a child help WHILE DOING HOUSEHOLD CHORES MEANS YOU ARE DOING BOTH. This arrangement only works when both parents are doing both and there is give and take. The main thing missing from most lopsided partnerships is an all-hands-in-at-all-times approach because there is always something to do even when that something is each of you having personal time or exercise time, etc. [/quote]

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