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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why doesn’t he go in house? That seems like a better middle ground. You can live a good life on 500k. On 200k with three kids in a HCOL an area, not so much (particularly coming from seven figures.)[/quote]

And/or you can get back into the workforce.[/quote]

Yeah, it’s this. OP, I agree you should ignore the rude PP who was insulting for no reason. But you really shouldn’t ignore people who are saying you need to go back to work. I understand your desire to stay home with your youngest. Lots of people have that desire. For most it is not a possibility. That will very likely be your family if your husband goes to government. And he should do that if he’s truly miserable. Biglaw is the worst, and he didn’t get to 7 figures without putting in many years of grueling firm work. Let him take a break (and to be clear, his “break” will still involve a full time job). It’s your turn to do your part for the family. Figure out how to get back into the workforce in the most lucrative way possible, and put your youngest in full time daycare. It’s what literally almost every American family does. You can too. [/quote]

I don’t understand all the posters telling OP to go back to work. She clearly doesn’t want to and won’t. If I were her I would pressure DH to stay in big law longer and then move to in house. [/quote]

Well, why is she entitled to stay home if her husband is miserable? My DH makes around 300/350 and I work for precisely that reason… he doesn’t want to be stressed to death at work. In some ways it’s a sacrifice for our family as our kids don’t have a stay at home parent, but doesn’t seem totally fair for his wife to stay home if he’s miserable. That or they need to figure out how to live on a much lower income.[/quote]

That is the first time I've heard that reason for working. Usually it's ambition, need for money, need for office culture, doesn't like staying home, ingrained link to work and self worth, to keep brain busy, use degree, get away from kids, just in case of divorce, to model working for kids..  I've never heard to be fair to a partner who is miserable working but its not a bad reason either![/quote]

PP'S argument is a need for money argument. She is just saying one person does not have to stretch themselves so thin for the money: the money can come from two less burdened spouses instead of one over burdened on.[/quote]

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