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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]All OP said was that her child has been subject to in person and online bullying and it was impacting their mental health, and somehow the thread became convinced that OP’s child was a bigot or a Christian fundamentalist who had harassed other kids. Why? I truly do not understand.

I am super far left and some of these comments scare me. Especially the assumption that if someone has been bullied or harassed, there MUST be a valid reason why. Here’s a short list of reasons kids in my high school got this treatment: they smelled bad (housing insecure or very poor, or lived/worked on a farm and smelled like it), unattractive or very unfashionably dressed, highly sensitive (prone to crying or emotional outbursts), being Muslim in an overwhelmingly Christian town, simply being weird or awkward. It’s insane to me, after seeing this in my own teenage experience, that you would assume the bullied/harassed kid DESERVED what happened to them. Teenagers Target and can be especially vicious to the kids who (1) seem the most different, and (2) seem the most vulnerable. That second part is especially frustrating— bullies target victims who are unlikely to fight back, get support from others, be believed, etc. this is how bullying works.

And yet you’ve all collectively decided that if OP’s child is going through this teenage hell, it MUST be their fault. This is a child we’re talking about. 13/14 years old. What the actual hell?

I am pro-choice, pro-LGBTQ+, anti-racist, and an advocate for sexual assault survivors and there is no justification for “cancelling” a 13 year old unless they committed a crime, and even then I’d urge rehabilitation efforts. If this child was expressing wrong-headed views, that’s a reason for conversations, not total ostracism.

Seriously: what is wrong with y’all?[/quote]

All true - but it was OP who claimed this was the reason. Thus the arguing. [/quote]

Nope. OP never told us what the problem was. Another poster wrote the following:

"This culture is alive in schools, it's just hidden from everyone and wrapped in the social justice culture in our public schools. Although the intent seems correct, many people get caught up and hurt by it. For more information, please visit: https://www.nytimes.com/2019/10/31/style/cancel-culture.html. In my child's situation, it wasn't related to rape or anything as severe as nude, but more in the lines of having a Christian value set and experiencing blowback about that, resulting in rumors being started about them being racist and bigoted."

And posters seized on this poster (who was replying to OP) talking about their "child's situation" and just decided it was OP. It's actually really weird![/quote]
What you quoted was from OP and was confirmed to be from OP by the site administrator. https://www.dcurbanmom.com/weblog/update040723[/quote]

[b]Then Jeff should have deleted the thread because the OP does not identify herself in those posts and it's not clear it is the OP from reading the thread.[/b] If that's really the case, this seems like a pretty obvious case of trolling and I don't get why it's still up (and am annoyed I've been drawn into and defending the OP if they are in fact just trying to troll on "cancel culture".

I actually think this is a worthwhile conversation to have (what the line is between holding someone accountable for their views and behavior, and ostracizing them in ways that make situations worse) so it is annoying to have it in a venue where people are not being honest. I shouldn't have to read follow ups from Jeff on his blog to figure out what the OP is up to on this thread.[/quote]
There is no requirement for an OP to continually tag themselves as OP in their posts. If there was, it would be pretty simple coding for the site to do it for the OP.[/quote]

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