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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP I think what happened to you is that everyone already didn’t like you, for whatever reason. [b]People who are liked and respected don’t get “canceled” for one mistake[/b] or ill-considered comment. If these were your colleagues, there was already a problem. [/quote]

This is not true.  There are many people who are bound to an orthodoxy (worse than any religion) that makes them cut off friends and family who violate any facet of their beliefs.  Just watched a bizarre situation when we hosted some of my son's friends for Spring Break.  We had a policy discussion over dinner on cartel violence at the border and two of them spent an entire day crying in a bedroom.  I want to say that "you are an adult now, use your words to make a policy argument."  But somehow that discussion was so egregious that he has been cut-off as being "anti-immigrant" by those two after four years of friendship (and hosting them).  So just think of how little co-workers could value you.[/quote]

I said to a friend over Spring Break that I don't believe in disengaging from people who hold different views. He looked stunned and said, "you don't?"  I said no but offered no explanation and he changed the subject. Even tolerance is taboo these days.  [/quote]
What level of disagreement tho?

I'm not going to speak to people who actively support laws that oppress me (I'm gay). That means that person fundamentally opposes my right to exist. Now, I also won't punch them or TP their house. I just won't ever speak to them.

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The conversation had no nuance. I was explaining that I am okay being friends with people who hold different views. That's it. It was in the context of living in an area that was well balanced across the political spectrum (rather than being simply liberal).

I'm even okay with people believing in laws that I think are oppressive toward me. Just in general, I think that living in integrated cultures is okay. I have also lived in other countries that are more conservative than the US and that's okay too. I respect their views and think most people come from a fundamentally good and decent place, even if I disagree with their conclusions. I have always tried to be open minded.  [/quote]

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