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[quote=Anonymous]I think meeting and marrying someone fairly young and starting to have kids fairly young (fairly young in my book = 20-25 for meeting, 23-30 for kids) if both of you want those things and are committed to growing together as much as possible.  This worked beautifully for my sister and BIL, and a friend of mine from college.  It worked less well for my father (but in fairness, I don't think either he or his first wife planned to have a kid or get married at 23) and another friend of a friend both of whom divorced by the time they were 30.  I think spending 5 years "getting to know each other" isn't helpful prior to kids -- if kids are going to break your relationship, it's going to happen whenever the kids happen.  I think it's more important for the spouses to be on the same page about when they want kids (or a house or whatever is important to them) and being committed to working toward that shared timeline together.

But there's no guarantee these plans will work out.  I know plenty of couples that met, married, and had kids in their 30s and 40s, whether they spent their 20s searching for a life partner or partying hard.  There's no guaranteed path to happiness.[/quote]

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