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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was induced with Cervadil but poorly monitored during my birth. I asked for an epidural but was denied (without checking me) even though I asked to be checked and was told to "give it time" and "it's going to get much worse." Apparently, I wasn't loud enough or agitated enough or something for anyone to take me seriously. I threw up all over myself and had broken capillaries all around my eyes, but my baby was born 20 minutes later. What was most traumatizing was that no one believed me or listened to me. I don't talk about this ever, but remember that not everyone chooses this when you're casually calling people self-involved or self-righteous or whatever.[/quote]

But here you are, talking about it, unprompted. So there’s that. [/quote]

On a thread about unmedicated births?  Hardly "unprompted."[/quote]

Well the thread is about “why are people so irritated to hear about a woman having a natural birth?” and many responses said it’s not the natural birth it’s the fact that certain women talk about it unprompted and like they talk unprompted about running a marathon, or going to Harvard. And your response was to tell us your unmediated birth story. Don’t get me wrong, your birth experience sounds horrific and I’m sorry that no one listened to you at the hospital. But it’s a perfect, accidental example of someone sharing their unmediated birth story when nobody asked “tell me your birth story!” . This thread was definitely NOT “tell us how you gave birth”. [/quote]

Multiple women have shared their birth stories "unprompted" in this thread, yet this is the only person you've attacked.  Why is that?
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It's the only one I read. I can point out the others too if you want.  But it sounds like you already saw them.  [/quote]

Oh- I re read the post- also, probably because the poster gave a lengthy description of her birth experience followed by stating "I don't talk about this, ever".  That probably was why it was the most perfect example.   "I never talk about this thing that I'm going to describe to you in great detail." [/quote]

So you’re doing a great job demonstrating how people are actively looking for reasons to attack other people on this topic.[/quote]

I think it's amazing that women can give birth pretty much any way they want to in our country.  I also don't really want to hear about it, because it's boring.  I've had 4 kids. I know about childbirth.  I am not interested in hearing about someone's childbirth.   I can't imagine how much LESS interested I'd be if I hadn't given birth before.  So again, it's not about if someone chose to have an epidural or not, or chose an elective C section vs a home birth.  It's just that I don't care.  And I don't encounter many women who want to regale me with stories of their planned c- sections because they understand it's boring to hear about.  But I DO encounter many women who want to let me know, some how some way, that they had a natural birth, even if there is no opening in which to easily insert it into the conversation.  And that, in my personal opinion, is why some might have the perception that others "bristle" when they talk about their natural births.  Similar to how people think others roll their eyes when they talk about running a marathon.  The reason, my friends, is because nobody cares and nobody wants to hear about this thing that you did that many, many others have also done and that is not interesting to anyone except for you. [/quote]

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