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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you and your husband need to decide what you want to do and go from there. Whatever the plan is, it will be easier if the two of you are on the same page.

We are the “poor” relatives on my husband’s side and not once have we invites ourselves on family members’ vacations or felt like they needed to host us, so to the PPs suggesting OP might be the “rich” relative who owes everyone else a free vacation, no. [/quote]

I'm PP and I'm not saying they "owe" it.  Of course they don't have to, and if they did pay it would be an incredibly generous thing to do.

Going on vacations with my extended family is one of my favorite childhood memories.  The games we played inside, the beach time, how we all got to know one another, etc.  Those vacations created bonds for me that I still have in adulthood.  And the aunt and uncle who were doing the lion's share of renting the beach house -- I have a great relationship with them today, and check in on them and keep up with them to make sure they're doing okay.  They are -- they don't need me.  But they were good to me and I think of them in that light.  If they needed something, I'd be there for them.

It's not all about money.  You can make it about money, and then you'll miss out on the relationships.

Of course if they all make about the same amount and the rest of the family is just freeloading thoughtlessly, forget it.[/quote]

Good for you for though childhood memories, but that's not what happens in every extended family vacation. [/quote]

Great that she had great memories. She was a child and wasn't burdened with the responsibilities. [/quote]

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