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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I find it a very bizarre concept that adult kids would want an apology for whatever they perceive their parents did wrong.  A conversation about it, perhaps, but I believe most parents just do the best they can with what they have to work with.  [b]Are they supposed to apologize for being human, imperfect, and therefore a great disappointment to their kids?[/b]

It does make sense that the OP refers to young adults because I think almost 100% of everybody that becomes a parent themselves views this issue very differently than most non-parents.[/quote]

This actually sounds comically childish to me. Like when you explain to a child that an apology would be appropriate in a situation, they will come back with "sorry I'm not perfect, sheesh, I guess I'm just a big disappointment." [/quote]

I totally agree with apologizing to children when they are children and you make a mistake, and I have done it many times.  What I don't get is an adult child rehashing what they perceive to have been parental mistakes in raising them and want an apology then.  I'm not talking about clearly abuse or a similar situation for which the victim ought to get an apology from the perpetrator.  I'm talking about adult kids who think their parents ought to apologize for not always knowing the right thing to say or do.  I also do not think parents should ever expect their kids to thank them for having them or raising them.[/quote]

If your child feels you made a mistake, then you’ve made a mistake. [/quote]

Np I don’t know, it’s pretty petty these days. I’m 30 but I work and know people in their early/mid 20s and it seems like everything is a perceived trauma. And the complaints are honestly kind of ridiculous [/quote]

I hear you, and I am also really tired of people deciding that because some petty trauma-calling exists, all trauma is petty. I was sexually abused by a parent and I dont' think anyone who knows the details would say my trauma is petty. And I get that isn't what you are saying, either, but know that comments like this can feel dismissive of those of us already traumaizing and unable to own that trauma because of the messed up situation we were raised in (and frankly, yes, retraumatizing) to some of us.[/quote]

I doubt anyone is criticizing people with trauma or legit reasons, people are criticizing snow flake victim mindset. [/quote]

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