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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why does OP keep asking this same question over and over again?  People respond why they have affaires and can keep living. Every response to OP’s question is met with how that couldn’t be the case. OP isn’t will to consider that other people value cheating differently and rationalize it differently. Stop asking and ignoring all the responses. You think what you think. Move on. [/quote]

“people value cheating differently”

No, people hate cheaters and cheating. That’s why cheaters hide their cheating. If you aren’t doing anything wrong, you don’t need to hide it. [b]Cheaters know it’s wrong, so they hide it[/b].[/quote]

It's more about the judgement from people who don't know all the facts...like you.[/quote]

Fact: cheating is wrong, and cheaters hide their cheating because they want to pretend they are decent people. Deep down they know it’s wrong and yes, society judges cheaters.

There are no facts that excuse cheating.
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If there are no facts that justify cheating (in your opinion) then why do you ask people how they could justify it?  In your world, there is no justification. Of course not everyone thinks the way you do and people continue to evaluate the circumstances of their life and act accordingly. [/quote]

I don’t ask people to justify cheating. I know cheaters are selfish liars who will victim blame and make up excuses. They’d rather do anything then accept fault, blame, or admit they are wrong.

The whole “not a cheater, but cheating is really ok” crowd here are definitely cheaters playing games.

Cheaters love drama, games, sneaking around, lying about everything, playing pretend, etc. It’s who they are and what they do. I feel sorry for their kids.[/quote]

Um. That the title of the thread [/quote]

She’s hurt and she needs to invite people to her threads to lash out. She feels some power for once until she doesn’t, again.[/quote]

It’s understandable, and certainly those who care, care A LOT.

But many simply don’t care.[/quote]

Agreed. She and other betrayed folk want to think that post exposure “everyone” will “hate” people who have been unfaithful, even where it has nothing to do with their own lives at all. And maybe some feel that way but most people keep it moving and mind their own. That’s reality - but let the nuh-uh! screaming at this ensue, as it will.[/quote]

Do you think cheating is okay, then?  That the only measure of whether it’s right or wrong is how the “public” reacts?[/quote]

I think my spouse cheating is a problem. Other people’s relationships are not my problem and I don’t care. [/quote]

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