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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ha, that assumes Norway would even want to take back a hamburger-eating doofus from Kansas like you. This "go back where you came from” talk is so toxic, and it's not gonna happen anyway. Let's just figure out how to all get along already.[/quote] OP here. It’s not about “getting along.” I get along great with other people. I have a very diverse community and I feel people get along, there’s lots of tolerance and acceptance. But I don’t feel like I BELONG. I feel like an interloper. Like why am I even here, why did my family move here? It feels random. Like my great grandparents felt bored and were like “America seems exciting” so they moved. It’s like the 1904 version of studying abroad and then deciding to just live there because why not. But why? I want to feel a sense of deep roots and belonging, of being a part of something bigger than just me. I think the US has a rich and interesting culture and history. Also, to respond to others: I am not idealizing life in other countries. I don’t think life there is better, in some ways it’s likely worse. I want the belonging, not some idealized version life in Europe. I’m not fantasizing about riding a bike with a baguette and some flowers in the basket. I want to feel more connected to where I live. My parents live on the other side of the US than me. They are each from still other distant parts of the US, where I no longer have much family. My grandparents are dead and I never met two of them and barely knew the other two. I truly do not feel that I have roots here. Moving to another part of the US feels like more of the same. I don’t want new. I want old.[/quote] Since it sounds like you don't have a spouse, you should get a puppy. Maybe foster a pregnant mama dog and pick out a puppy from the litter that you will keep. Also, consider tutoring grade school students or mentoring. [/quote] I think you might not know why your grandparents moved here- most people be they English moving to GA in the 17th century or spaniards coming up into what was then Mexico all the way through to teh influx of refugees in the 1890s and then after ww2 and then post colonial breakdown the 70s - all of these people immigrating here, left their lives behind b/c of some trauma. You should search out the immigration museums of whatever ethnicity you are .. there are tiny museums dedicated to pretty much every ethnicity dotted all over the US and you will find that its wasn't ooh what a great adventure in 1904 from the balkans or Sweden/norway. it was more likely the failure of harvests 5-6 years in a row and widespread political and social collapse. the Ottoman Empire and Russian empires were falling apart at the end of the 19th century plus there were several decades of epidemics both in humans, animals and in crops at that time. Lots of borders changing and hardship- that is why ppl got up and came here. they were trying to survive and then thrive. its wasn't study abroad.. not even for the 2nd sons who ended up here in Stuart times- their parents told them that chivalry is over- , we are giving everything to your older brother and your best bet is going to colonies or you can always become a priest! maybe your grandparents were the wrong brand of christian for their area- that happened a lot. [/quote]
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