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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]SO finally sat my DD down and discovered that she has filled out a grand total of 0 (ZERO) applications all of which are due by 1/4 at the lastest! She kept saying she would get around to it and "how hard could it be". I am livid. She is working furiously on essays but seriously how good can they be at this late date and how on earth are the transcripts and all the supplements going to be sent on time. My hands-off approach backfired big time! Anyone else have kids waiting until the very.last.second???[/quote]

Yes my kid was literally racing to get in their applications until the last minute for early action and early decision. Got into a few too early action schools. At this point just help her and don’t stress her out. She is only 17-18? Just help her do her best. [/quote]

[b]And learn your lesson for any future kids----that you as a parent investing in their future (college ain't cheap), can help guide your junior/senior with the college choices and still have them be "independent".  They are only 17/18 and many will need guidance/nudging.  [/b]

However, if you can afford it, I highly recommend a college counselor.  They will help set calendars/deadlines and that way it's not you the parent nagging them constantly.  From Feb Junior year when we hired our counselor (should have done it sophomore year, but Covid had different ideas), my kid had a plan with dates and goals and had to meet those.  It makes the process run much smoother and takes the nagging burden off the parent (mostly).  [/quote]

My DD and were talking about the application process and how it was for her now that it's all done but the waiting. She was happy with how it went but shared that  a couple friends had zero help from their parents, not because they were 1st gen and not knowledgeable but because they are the kind of parents you hear from here that think the kid should do it 100% on their own. Those friends were much more stressed out and really angry at their parents and feeling really uncertain about what they may have missed since no responsible adult was providing that sounding board and 2nd pair of eyes on college lists and applications. So, if you are a parent who doesn't want to help your kid with the process, at least give them a counselor to talk to. I was really to sorry to hear so late that her friends were going through that because I'd have been happy to help them.[/quote]

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