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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your friend should have gotten an abortion. She made the decision to keep a baby.

Does the guy have money? Maybe file for child support[b]. I personally wouldn’t.[/b][/quote]

That’s a big decision to make on behalf of the kid, unless she’s independently wealthy. Dad can explain to the kid at 18 why he was absentee when the kid reaches our, but mom would have a big explanation for raising the kid in lesser financial circumstances— it can all go into a 529 and the kid could be set for college. [/quote]

[b]It wasn’t a child they had together mutually[/b].

I would have gotten an abortion. If she decided to have the child, it was her decision.

If the guy was wealthy or came from a wealthy family, ask for child support. Average Joe? Just skip it.[/quote]

That doesn’t matter for the child though. Do you think in his twenties, crushed under college debt payments, the kids going to think “yeah I mean it totally makes sense my mom didn’t ask my dad for a penny because my dad doesn’t think I should have existed”

At the lowest rate of child support I have ever seen ($600/month) the kid could be looking at $130,000 for college if she put it in a mattress. In a 529 he or she would walk away from college debt free. That’s a huge thing to decide *not* to do for your kid and I would expect the kid would have some thoughts about it.

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You have some major delusions about child support. My ex made $350/year and pays $2K/month for one child. He now makes $600K/year and unless I take him back to court which will cost me tons) it ain’t budging.[/quote]

Wow my ex make $300k I make roughly half and I get $3,500 month for 1 kid. All cases are unique and the formula is just a base. Many factors go into final totals.

Op tell your friend to get a lawyer. Best to get the award in place while expenses are high. A lawyer can help to obtain a fair support award for her child. Money makes many aspects of child rearing much smoother. Child rearing can actually be fun as a single when you are financially comfortable.

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Oh and it doesn’t have to cost tons.  He’s shot himself in the foot by being absent for 2 years, particularly if he’s paid no support, he wont have to pay child support arrears from before date or filing, but it still won’t look good if he knows about the kid and has been totally MIA.

She should file for custody, hopefully he signed the birth certificate, if not file, establish paternity, leave support off the table for now. Ask for sole custody first and then once that is determined, which she will more than likely get wait about 6 months, he probably won’t appeal anything out of JDR anyway,  and file for support.

If he’s already paying support they will know how to find him, they’ll garnish his wages and you won’t even have to deal with him. Get on with your life the money is for the kid. Who knows maybe he will learn a lesson and get snipped. [/quote]

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