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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is this something you decided to do unilaterally? Does your DH want all the bells and whistles or are you dumping this on him and he doesn’t really care about the party so he resents being asked to do all this work? I personally would be pissed if my DH wanted to celebrate a big promotion with a huge party and then made me do any of the work for it. I would rather not have the party. [/quote]

OP here. He basically begged for the party. I was actually silently not volunteering to do anything for some time.  I felt somewhat forced to volunteer to take over and host when I heard him discussing with his cousin and more or less asking her to cohost with him.
At that point I felt I had to save face and step in because of optics.You can criticize me all you want, but I just did not think it was a good look for his cousin to plan a celebration while the wife was not involved.
Yes I know I ultimately volunteered. No one had a gun to my head.
But I am being honest that the reason I did volunteer was NOT because i wanted to, but because it felt like  subtle (or not so subtle) shade thrown at me. Like a guilt trip. Passive aggressive.

Perhaps that information and backstory will give more insight and inform opinions. [/quote]

So in your mind, asking a cousin to co host is passive aggressively begging you to throw him a party? You have some serious things you need to work through.[/quote]

Yes, that's exactly what I am saying. He had her come over to the house, sat down and had the conversation with her LOUDLY while I cooked dinner, and kept saying things like "I really want to mark this occasion, but don't want to be the only one responsible for planning it. No one wants to plan their own party."

It was awkward and passive aggressive.[/quote]

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