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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are people scolding OP for not hiring or outsourcing missing the part where her husband doesn’t want her to? So to recap, he hints he wants to be celebrated, she obliged, said it happily turned larger but she needs some extra help and he said it won’t be him and it can’t be anyone not a guest at the party. That’s a brat right there.[/quote]

Ha ha ha, I really doubt that's how that went down. Here's how it would have happened in my house, where two grownups who have the ability to have a conversation live:

Me: I think I'm going to hire an event planner to help with the logistics of the wedding.
Husband: Why would you hire someone when there are going to be so many guests who would be happy to help out?
[This is where OP flips her lid and storms out of the room]
[b]Me: I'd rather the guests be able to enjoy the party and not feel like they have to work there.[/b]
Husband: That makes sense, I was just thinking these people love being involved but yeah, it would be more fun if we were all "off" and could just have fun

You're hearing OP's side of the story. I bet her husband would say the conversation went down differently.

Serious question OP - when your husband says something that bothers you (like apparently he does all the time), do you just huff off and then go moan about how awful he is? Or do you say to him, hey, what you said bothered me and here's why, so that he can understand why what he said may have been problematic or otherwise explain what he meant? People say the wrong thing ALL THE TIME. Whenever my husband or I get irked with something the other said we try to resolve it (usually the person who said it didn't mean it the way the person who heard it interpreted it). Have you ever tried that?[/quote]

OP here. This is literally what I said to him.[/quote]

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