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Okay, I get that there are children with neurological and genetic eating issues. And I get fixating on bread or potatoes, noodles or  something that would be realistically served with some frequency in your home as part of a balanced meal. But hot dogs? Let’s face the fact this family has some trashy eating habits for a child this young to have the degree of exposure that would result in a preference. Someone is purchasing those hot dogs again and again. It find it very sad and I am not above the occasional Costco dog. [/quote]

What if it weren’t hot dogs? What if it were boiled eggs? What if it were plain oatmeal?

What if the kid who only ate boiled eggs was with you at Costco, and the parents had been trying everything they could think of to get them to try something else, anything else, even if it’s not the healthiest item? You tried to get them to sample all the foods but they wouldn’t even try the juice or the cookie samples. Then, on your way out, they smelled the hot dogs and said that smelled good, and you’re feeling stressed out from all the food rejection, and you think, “I’m not above a costco hot dog, and I’d love for this kid to eat something besides a boiled egg,” so you get one. Guess what that kid wants for dinner. And breakfast. And lunch. Why do you think it took several exposures to a food for them to love it? It was the right food at the right time. It tasted good, it felt good to eat it. It’s consistent and they don’t have to wait long for it to cook. It’s plentiful so they never have to worry about running out. It doesn’t matter if it’s hot dogs or boiled eggs or steamed broccoli or Boston cream pie flavored yoplait. The problem isn’t the parenting or the single food of choice, it’s the anxiety and whatever else is the underlying cause of the restrictive diet (in our case, autism among other things), and judgmental know it’s alls like you. Every comment about food to a kid like that is going to spark that fight, flight or freeze response. None of those responses promote eating. Not only is it counterproductive to the kid’s problem, but it makes the parent feel judged, and that’s the opposite of helpful. Grow up and worry about your own plate, and maybe quit eating hot dogs at Costco if you’re going to judge other people’s eating habits. [/quote]

Our friends with an autistic DS catered to his tantrums and gave him chicken nuggets for every meal.  He was 350 pounds by the time he finished high school and now they must institutionalize him because physically, they can't handle him.  Anecdotes aren't universally applicable.  Once that parent bought the Costco hotdog, they didn't need to go back and provide that again and again, [b]because the job of parents is to do the hard thing when it is in the best interest of the child, even when they are throwing tantrums about food[/b].[/quote]

You clearly have NO CLUE what some people go through. GTFO with your “I have all the answers” BS.

Ps - you’re not nearly amazing as you think you are

Signed,
Parent of two really good eaters who has no skin in this game but can’t stand people like you[/quote]

Wow... amazing argumentation there.  Yes, I am a health professional, and the number of kids who really, truly can't tolerate a wide variety of foods is much smaller than the posters on this thread would lead us to believe.[/quote]

No argument. Just calling you out. [/quote]

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