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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A good target to me seems like 24-27. For example, if you find someone compatible in grad school, no need to reject that person just in order to "live life" and keep playing the field until your 30s.[/quote]

That is when I met my husband.  I needed to mature first and wouldn't have identified a good one until I started my career.  At my husband  when I had just turned 26 and was a few months shy of 25.  I had a Master's Degree and was set in my career.  I had a job prior to the one I was in when I met my husband.  I had health benefits, great salary and a great trajectory for a career that would allow for great pay with lots of flexibility.  Husband was in his first job, but was ready to launch independent to make more $.  We fell in love pretty much instantly--hot, athletic, very smart, funny--and great earning potential both of us.  We married 1.5 years later.  I actually thought looks wise and package he was out of my league.  He though the same about me.  Lots of passion.

We were both pretty immature and still very much into the 'going out, party scene'--which is why we waited 7 years to have our first child.  We are 52/53 now and 26/25 seems so young now, but we both found exactly what we wanted in a partner and even though he thought he'd wait until 30 to get married he pretty much told me he was going to marry me the night we met.  We really align on just about everything in life.  He quadrupled his pay the year after we got married, but by marrying me with a stable job/great health benefits, it allowed him to take a work risk that paid off handsomely.  [/quote]

^ oh and my parents stressed education and ALWAYS having our own source of income/job/retirement.  NEVER was it about landing a man.  Oh god--NO!  My parents raised us to be able to earn/support ourselves and never to rely 100% on someone else because you never know what will happen in life.  Very sage advice.  I did find a WAH job with great $ and benefits and didn't sacrifice time with my kids.  My husband also does a lot of the chores and helps out.  There isn't a big upset in power since we both earn and both help at home--even though with his salary I never would have had to work.[/quote]

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